Ally & Intersectionalist & Traitor

Ally for All

We are who we are (albeit in process). Love is love. 'Nuff said.


We are holistic beings. Categories and labels help in some ways, and yet we must never forget every group of which we are a part is truly heterogeneous.

There is also an interconnected nature between and within social categorizations such as race, class, and gender as they apply to a given individual or group. This aids in understanding overlapping and interdependent systems of prejudice, discrimination and disadvantage.

I'm an Upper-middle-class Profession
al Able-bodied Middle-aged White American Male. So on the one hand I get that I'm the freaking poster child for privilege. And yet I also know that I'm still so full of my own implicit biases I need help seeing where my blinders are. I'm responsible for my own growth, and I am realistic enough to know I can't do it on my own; I need help since I don't know what I don't know. Here's just one example: 


The point of the word feminist, and the feminist movement, has never been to say that women are better than men. The point is that women and things associated with women have been given a lesser place in society and we want to bring those things up to a place of equality.

The focus is on the feminine because that is what is being pushed down. However, focusing on the feminine does not mean we're focusing only on women. Men are belittled and called "less of a man" anytime they portray a trait that is associated with femininity. If women and the feminine were seen as equal to men and the masculine this would not happen.

Feminism is about raising up things associated with females to have an equal place in society as things associated with males. It's called feminism, not equalism, because the focus is on raising up and not tearing down. Equalism would suggest that male things need to come down to a lower level so that female things can meet them in the middle. That's not the point.

The point is to raise up the feminine so it is on the same playing field that the masculine is already on. Feminists don't want men to lower themselves, they just want them to make room for women.

The above is just one model for explaining and describing my journey in all this and how this impacts and is impacted by my place in the world as a Man. The concept(s) can also be translated to describe how I impact  and am impacted by my place in the world as a White. See, watch what happens when I simply replace "feminism" with "Black Lives Matter":

"The point of the phrase Black Lives Matter, and the Black Lives Matter movement, has never been to say that Black lives are more valuable than White lives. The point is that Black Lives and things associated with Black people have been given a lesser place in society and we want to bring those things up to a place of equality."

Now consider the other descriptors in my privilege, like Upper-middle-class, or American. And not just each one in isolation, but in combination as a White Man, or a Professional White American.

Traitor to the System

As I learn to shut up, sit down, back off, and really listen to the voices of those around me, I'm learning our societal systems are in need of change. So if you're a person of privilege like me, don't expect me to get on your bandwagon. Instead, I invite you to sit down next to me and listen to the voices around us. We've been in power for way too long. It's long-past time to use that power to make things better.

On the left: Equality...everyone gets one box.
On the right: Equity...everyone gets to watch the game

See the difference?